Oh My Goodness. Sometimes I just want to cry. People can be so mean, and strike out with such hateful, cruel, untruths sometimes... I know it is just a defense mechanism... insecurity in their own abilities, their own person hood, their own perception of their place in life wreaks havoc with self-confidence.
That is so sad... I really do not understand why .... if they are confused or upset, they just don't Ask what is happening, try to stay in communication, listen and actually hear what is going on in the other people's minds and hearts.... Most of the time it is a false perception.... and it's on Both sides.
I would like to think that Understanding, empathy and compassion are much more effective than name-calling, blaming and taking things out of context.
Don't we all love each other? Don't we just want to be able to live our lives in peace and harmony as God's children? We want to help, not harm, we want to understand, not judge, we want to enjoy our children, our parents our friends, and be as helpful as we can to those less fortunate.... and by helping them, I do not mean doing it For them. ;)
We want to discover our passion, follow our bliss, and enlighten others along the way.
We have a need to Find our Joy.
And I should be happy for You, as You should be happy for me. We don't intentionally try to hurt each other, but with miscommunication and misunderstanding and conclusion jumping it just becomes one big convoluted mess.
I don't have to agree with you. You don't have to agree with me. If you judge me, I will forgive you, because somehow your experience and feelings regarding yourself is what you are really judging.... you just see it in me.
But can't we Empathize with each other? If we are all adults, then we have the same rights. To love and be loved.... but we don't do that by taking away from others because we can't find it in ourselves....
And if we can't find it in ourselves, someone else can't do it for us.
No amount of giving of Myself will allow You to find your true happiness.
I know some people don't understand this, but I really hope that one day, all the hurtful blaming and misperception and resentment that causes their hearts to ache with discontent, be it lack of education, money, job security or a soul to soul relationship.... or any of the things that they feel entitled to, .... one day, they can realize, that it must be their own doing, their own path, their own hard work that will fill them with joy.
Not Mine.
And I myself need to realize, that as much as I love and adore them, any amount of enabling of them is not good for them, and their growth as a fully formed, well rounded member of society.
Trying to explain something they do not understand, only makes me frustrated.
You can charm me, you can cajole me, you can even guilt me..... but that is My issue, and I will do my best, with the help of God, to do what is right.
That does not mean giving you every piece of my heart, my soul, my life so that you can scarf it down and ask for more, because it was easy for you.
It isn't easy for me to learn, to earn, to live and love..... It is my own hard work, my own sorrow, my own life blood, my own triumphs that go into food for my soul, for my heart. I give you all that is possible, and I try and teach you, and hope you learn the rest.
I am sorry you are so sad.... you have the methods and the tools to get to the bottom of your pain. My tools won't work for you, we each have our own personalized set.
I love you, I adore you, and I hope one day all the extraneous noise of the world will fade away and you can find your true self.
